Communication in Relationships

Hi everybody!

I was reading EBONY magazine today, the new issue with Kimora and Dijmon and their newest addition to the family. Their son is gorgeous. A lot of celebrity couples stay within that Hollywood circle of dating other celebrities. Some relationships don’t last long and are for publicity, others may last a lifetime because of true love. The magazine also talked about how relationships last so long because couples have an understanding with one another and they keep an open line of communication.

I was talking to a close friend (who is a male) of mine whom I known for 8 years. We were talking about relationships and how many people you have to date in order to find that right one. There is a connection that people have when they first meet someone. There is also that impression of someone too. For instance a guy may seem down to earth and easy to talk to (impression), but if he talks about the same dull thing over and over, and over that he thinks you have an interest in (connection), then maybe he’s grounded on just that. My friend was telling me that first impression isn’t everything because guys sell females dreams by telling them what we desire to hear, and they are “trying” to get the girl to like them. But if there is a real connection then the guy doesn’t have to “try” he will be himself, and females can tell when a guy is himself or trying to hard to amaze us.
Couples have very strong connection after developing that foundation that allows them to openly communicate with one another, and that’s how 30-50 year relationships last. Neither partner withholds their feelings or thoughts from one another. Courtship is how most couples get that connection. Guys really woo females when they are romantic and creative. Having long conversations, and getting to know what each others desires, needs, goals, and values are build up the foundation of many long term relationships.
It was interesting to see how his views on relationships have changed over the years. I always thought relationships were like fairytales, he didn’t. But now he sees that many relationships have happy endings.

Ericka B.